Just a figure

Still remember.. bout a week ago or so, i had an online conversation with a friend. The discussion started off with some really broad and typical topics such as "how's life over there" "what are you doing" and all that sort. However, as the time go on, we began to talk about more sentimental stuffs, when we touched on intimate relationships, boy-girl interactions, etc. Suddenly, she popped me a question, "Do you prefer to have a relationship with someone younger than you or elder?". Well, this isn't a completely new question that someone has asked me before. According to her observation, as well as general assumption based on general media, upbringing, and other sources of info, most guys "prefer" to go out with younger female, while she also said she read it in some articles (lol, don't think it's refereed) that 20% of the guys (21-30 yrs old sample) ONLY choose to go out with younger girls, bout 40% "prefer" to, 15% don't care, and the rest were categorized under "others".

Well, when i heard that from her.. I cant stop laughing.. anyway, it's pretty obvious that those stats are definitely bull and wont be much of a reference, however, to be frank i think the stats isn't that far apart from the actual trend if someone could actually supply a complex research onto the contemporary trend. For me, "age" is merely just a figure, it might be sensitive to some individuals (both male n female), but to me it's nothing more than a piece of evidence that proves your physical existence. So, i don't really include chronological age as part of my criteria (if i actually have one) of looking for possible partner. Nonetheless, my friend insisted to seek out an answer from me, as in, she kinda forced me to choose 1 definite answer, a) younger? b) elder? No in between, same age or anything of that sort.. Well, since she insisted, i gave her my answer. b)

Fundamentally, her question is pretty tricky to answer, as it actually fluctuate along your lifeline. Imagine, a guy who's 28, if he's dating a girl who's 6 yrs younger than him, say 22, it sounds completely reasonable, however, if that guy is only 22 yrs old and the same situation apply to him, meaning he's dating a 16 years old girl, well, then it will seemed to be abnormal and out of the ordinary. Strangely, same effect applies to the same scenario, with just the switch of gender role, say 28 yrs old female dating a 22 yrs old male, social pressures along with stereotypes will haunt the couple from several angles and in various forms. It's weird isn't it?
How powerful a culture has, and how much it affects our perception and how we look at majority of occurrences in our daily lives.

Personally, to be honest, if for some reasons, i have the chance to choose, i really prefer to date a female who's elder than me. Although there isnt a direct positive correlationship between chronological age and mental age, i believe that there is a certain skew towards that direction, and mature females has something that the youngster do not practice, yet. Well, that's just basically my personal thoughts, part and pieces of it that i am willing to disclose here. And yes, it's obvious that, to me, mental age > chronological age. For now, since i am 21 yrs old (already.. lolx), my tolerance should be about >5<> chronological age, and you can possibly find more substance out of a mentally matured individual than a naive individual. Till now, i don't think i've ever.. gone out with anyone younger than me.. i think.. yea.. lolx. Not to say i have the tendency to fall for elder female, but i don't deny there's a certain relation that leads me to that. Anyway, elder, younger or not, those are just words that we used to converse information with each other, it's just a symbol of articulation that made up the meaning for better understanding, i don't think that's important as to what you looking for in a potential partner, but something within her, something more than physical attributes and chronological appearances.

Not sure why i decided to disclose this amount of info bout myself here, probably just a way to release part and pieces of my inner stagnant gouge. Anyway, along with this post, i attached a piece of my poem that i wrote illustrating aging in a woman's pov. Cheers..



Hourglass

Bearing herself, like a pale yellow moon

Odd, but precisely so, the truest Queen

Whose lurid beauty would enflame

Great casualty or festering odium

Transient, versifier of raven wings

Pending cleric of a renounced god

This diffused luminary, too far away

A reverie whose prevailing pallid monarchy

Is just that, aspired?

Misshapen convex, a knot, a fray

So sure they were of this final stretch

Clutched this maiden in hidden prayers

Before her all was sand.